I often hear people talk and talk and talk and go nowhere.   Next time they open their mouth I am hesitant to give them all my attention, and after 2 or 3 such events, I don’t bother to listen to them.  I have figured out that their conversations go “know where”.  When I try to explain that perhaps the topic sentence of their conversations need to be followed rather quickly by an interesting conclusion, of course, I get the defensive responses:  You are too impatient.  You need to listen to me.  Don’t rush me.  But you see, conversation needs to follow basic entertainment rules.  Get your audiences’ attention and don’t disappoint, at least not always, or for real integrity, own up to your loss of memory, or vague conclusion, or frankly having nothing to say.

Don’t turn around and blame the messenger for your own lack of thinking.

I have spent a week-end with people who often don’t complete sentences, complete thoughts, or even enunciate.  Very difficult to understand these people, and then to pretend that their no thoughts are really interesting, and that I am willing to suspend my own clear thinking for your mindless meanderings.

So you see I can only speak of these things anonymously, and generally.  The truth about general conversation is bleak.

Ok  Have something to say when you talk.  Start with an attention graber.  I was chased by wolves yesterday–for instance.

Pertinent continuation–I was in Griffith Park and it was twilight…I looked up and their were 6 shining bright eyes staring at me.

My pertinent reaction–I was scared…  Emotional effect.

Pertinent continuation–I started backing up slowly as they came closer to me…

Personal emotional effect–I couldn’t help myself, I turned and ran.

Conclusion–I kept running and they didn’t follow me.

Emotional conclusion–I was soon safe, and began shaking from the experience, but began to relax and after a few tears resumed quickly going to my car….

I didn’t mention that my socks were dirty or that my 3rd grade teacher was mean to me, or maybe i should buy some fruit on the was home, and then was it with my new scrub brush or dish cloth and go to bed early, but my favorite TV show is on tonight, but I have have to get up early in the morning……..

Oh god, when people start a conversation meander around in their minds aimlessly. I am gone and most of the audience is gone; and pretty angry that I am taken out of the peace in my own mind to listen to unconscious meanderings in your mind.

Think, and respect other people’s space by having something to say before opening your mouth.